【身边朋友对你的印象】

my favourite pastime=> 心理测验~!! 
1. 你有吃早餐的习惯？
有~~2
没有~~3 


2. 你养过宠物？
有~~7
没有~~3

3. 你有工作经验？
有~~7
没有~~4

4. 你有好的运动细胞？
有~~8
没有~~5

5. 你现在正在减肥？
是~~9
不是~~6

6. 你认为看电影一定要吃零食？
是~~9
不是~~10

7. 你觉得地球上出现过外星人？
有~~8
没有~~11

8. 你曾有过很多恋情？
是~~12
不是~~9

9. 你很少看漫画书？
是~~13
不是~~10

10. 你到KTV就会唱个不停？
是~~13
不是~~14

11. 你喜欢吃三明治？
喜欢~~14
不喜欢~~12

12. 你会自创不同的菜式？
会~~15
不会~~13

13. 你很会画插画？
是~~A型
不是~~B型

14. 你喜欢格子图案？
喜欢~~C型
不喜欢~~D型

15. 你很想出国上学？
是~~E型
不是F型

16. 你曾参加过某明星的后援会？
有~~G型
没有~~H型


A型人~~
不管是熟人还是陌生人，你都会主动与对方交谈，你给人的感觉很活泼也很大方且并不唐突，所以你并不惹人讨厌，你给人的第一个印象不错，你的思维过于活跃，所以身边总是很多朋友，但知心的并没有几个，你太贪玩，表面看似和谁都能相约吃饭，逛街，做一些亲密的事，这样会让你真正的好朋友怀疑到底与你之间的友谊是哪种，对方可能不能确定与你要好的程度，而如果对方又是不喜欢表达的人，这种情绪会越积越多，到最后不可负荷时，爆发出来，可能受伤的反而是你。所以注意一下自己的表现，你应该对不管是友情还是其他感情，都有鲜明的态度，这样才不会有不必要的误会和遗憾。

B型人~~
有你在的地方一定有欢笑，你善良，调皮，任性，霸道与贴心。你看起来活泼好动，但实际内心深处，你有些自卑而自负，你希望自己能把事情做到最好，你很在乎别人对你的评价，你的性格像小孩，单纯直接，情绪化，喜怒哀乐写在脸上，你没有心机，但也缺少些自我保护的能力，你表面看来很容易相处，但想要走进你的内心世界其实并不容易，你需要人家的鼓励，包容，宠爱和肯定，其实你也常常自我反省，你希望自己能做到起码80%的完美，但你似乎没那个毅力，所以你的情绪变化无常，一定是被这些因素困扰的。
C型人~~
你是择善固执的坚持派，有人与你聊天，你可以天马星空的聊，但你不会主动找对方聊天。你很有原则也很被动，你总是习惯呆在自己的世界里，你在朋友的眼里是比较难深交的人，大家感觉你和人交往，总是点到为止，你心里的那片天地不对外开放，也很保护自己的私隐。

D型人~~
你是积极努力认真派，你对自己要求很高，但一旦遇到和你脾气相似的人，你们就很有惺惺相惜的感觉，因而相谈甚欢。你虽然表面看起来有些严肃，但是其实你单纯善良，你的想法总是积极的，你有很强的自我调节能力，所以即使你遇到苦难，也能很好的处理，你在朋友是最乖的朋友，因为当你真心喜欢一个人的时候，你的贴心和用心会不自然的流露出来，你个朋友的关系看似平淡，但其实双方心里的挂念，彼此都知道。

E型人~~
你开朗没心机，你对朋友很大方，也很周到你很舍得在朋友身上花钱，你看起来漫不经心，实际上你做事很有条理。一旦你要做，就会做得很快，可是往往你懒于去做，你很喜欢说话，你喜欢与别人交流意见，尤其是自己了解的事，你比较好强，可是那种好强并没给他人带来困扰。

F型人~~
你的废话不多，你喜欢观察，不管是人还是事物，你的心思慎密，眼光独到，你总能看出别人看不出的细节，你做事很有计划，这让朋友和你相处起来十分安心，因为你不仅把自己处理得很稳妥，空闲时，还能帮朋友做一些小事，你能掌握别人的想法，你的观点总是比较有建材，也很特别，你很理智和现实，你不喜欢天马行空的乱想，你觉得那样没意义。

G型人~~
你不喜欢想得太远，只要眼下快乐就好，你没什么想像力，你每天关心的是今天要做什么，怎么做。你的生活很简单，正常吃，喝，睡，闷了找人聊点无关要紧的事情，把事情打发走
。你对生活中的快乐与烦恼看得很开，你是个很容易满足的人。

H型人~~
你是和善亲切自然派，你生性豪爽，在你心里没什么过不去的事！你不自卑，不自负也不自私，人生对你而言跟玩似的，困难和不安到你那里，很快就消失，朋友与你一起很舒服，看起来对什么都不在乎的你，会把这种无所谓带给朋友，让对方也能很快走出低痱的情绪.


mine was B, how about u?

名句精华

1. 人生就像一杯茶，不会苦一辈子，但总会苦一阵子。

2. 低头要有勇气，抬头要有底气。

3. 傻与不傻，要看你会不会装傻。

4. 幸福是可以通过学习来获得的，尽管它不是我们的母语。

7. 朋友就是把你看透了，还能喜欢你的人。

8. 当我们搬开别人架下的绊脚石时，也许恰恰是在为自己铺路。

9. 如果说我懂的道理比别人多一点，那是因为我犯的错误比别人多一点。

11. 世界上只有想不通的人，没有走不通的路。

12. 地球是运动的，一个人不会永远处在倒霉的位置。

13. 走的最急的是最美的景色，伤的最深的是最真的感情。

15. 当别人开始说你是疯子的时候，你离成功就不远了.

17. 时间就像一张网，你撒在哪里，你的收获就在哪里。

22. 成熟不是心变老，而是眼泪在眼里打转却还保持微笑。

24. 人，长得漂亮不如活的漂亮。

27. 每个人出生的时候都是原创，可悲的是很多人渐渐都成了盗版。

30. 把一切平凡的事做好即不平凡，把一切简单的事做好即不简单。

31. 把不忙不闲的工作做的出色，把不咸不淡的生活过得精彩。

33.
忙碌是一种幸福，让我们没时间体会痛苦..
奔波是一种快乐，让我们真实地感受生活..
疲惫是一种享受，让我们无暇空虚..

36. 探索的旅程不在于发现新大陆，而在于培养新视角。

39. 不是人人都能活的低调，可以低调的基础是随时都能高调。

41. 年轻时候，拍下许多照片，摆在客厅给别人看；等到老了，才明白照片是拍给自己看的。

42. 就算不快乐也不要皱眉，因为你永远不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。

43. 当大部分人都在关注你飞的高不高时，只有少部分人关心你飞的累不累，这就是友情。

45. 让未来到来，让过去过去。

46. 微小的幸福就在身边，容易满足就是天堂。

47. 成功有个副作用，就是以为过去的做法同样适应于将来。

48. 天使之所以会飞，是因为她们把自己看得很轻..

50.喜欢一个人，就是在一起很开心..爱一个人，就是即使不开心，也想在一起..

51. 幽默就是一个人想哭的时候还有笑的兴致。

53. 人之所以活得累，是因为放不下架子，撕不开面子，解不开情节。

54. 漂亮只能为别人提供眼福，却不一定换到幸福。

55. 美丽让男人停下，智慧让男人留下。

56. 人生最精彩的不是实现梦想的瞬间，而是坚持梦想的过程。

57. 忍无可忍，就重新再忍。

58. 付出真心，才会得到真心，却可能伤的彻底；保持距离，才能保护自己，却注定永远寂寞。

59. 废话是人际关系的第一句。

60. 有时候，不是对方不在乎你，而是你把对方看的太重。

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sharing: 人生没有命定的不幸，只有早衰的绝望

有人说：“没有你爱的人和爱你的人，生命怎么不绝望？”

其实人最大的成就是什么呢？是找到恋人，结婚生子，名利双收？

其实不妨简单一点，人只要能做到安心，定心，遇上挫折也不绝望，已是最大的成就。

人生没有命定的不幸，只有早衰的绝望。

“信望”爱是很重要的，有信念便能绝处逢生，有希望便会继续向前走，有爱便永不放弃，

不只为满足私欲而活着。

这是生命的意义，存在的目的。

永远不会没有人爱你，因为世上最爱你的人就是你的身体，无论你多番离弃它伤害它，它也没有微言继续支持你，养活你。

也不应该没有你爱的人，因为爱的最基本便是先爱你自己。

别怨命，命运没有待薄任何人，只会顺应你的心助你一把。

你悲观它会把你推向更悲观，你坚强它会给你更强的能量。

有信念的人才有希望，有希望的人才能自爱爱他人。

不要害怕孤独一个人，不要等待爱。

爱是行动，马上行动，好好和自己恋爱一场，你将发现原来你并不孤独，自爱的人自然会走在一起，相亲相爱，照亮世界。

人生就是为了找寻爱的过程，每个人的人生都要找到四个人

第一个是自己，

第二个是你最爱的人，

第三个是最爱你的人，

第四个是共度一生的人．

茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又会遇见了你？

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sharing: 四句终身受益的话

有位少年去拜访一位年长的智者。

他问智者：“我如何才能成为一个自己愉快，同时也能给别人带去愉快的人呢？”

智者看着他说：“孩子，在你这个年龄有这样的愿望，已经很难得了。我送你四句话。

第一句话是，把自己当成别人。

你能说说这句话的含义吗？''

少年回答说：“是不是说，在我感到痛苦忧伤的时候，就把自己当成别人，这样痛苦就自然减轻了；当我欣喜若狂之际时，把自己当成别人，那些狂喜也会变得平和中正一些吧？”

智者微微点头，接着说：“第二句话，把别人当成自己。”

少年沉思一会儿，说：“这样就可以真正同情别人的不幸，理解别人的需求，在别人需要的时候给予恰当的帮助？”

智者两眼发光，继续说道：“第三句话，把别人当成别人。”

少年说：“这句话的意思是不是说，要充分地尊重每个人的独立性，在任何情况下都不可侵犯他人的核心领地？”

智者哈哈大笑说：“很好，很好。孺子可教也！

第四句话是，把自己当成自己。

这句话理解起来太难了，留着你以后慢慢品味吧。”

少年说：“这四句话之间有太多 自相矛盾之处，我用什么才能把它们统一起来呢？”

智者说：“很简单，用一生的时间和经历。”少年沉默了很久，然后叩首告别。

后来少年变成了壮年人，又变成了老人。再后来他离开这个世界很久以后，人们都还时时提到他的名字。人们都说他是一位智者，因为他是一个愉快的人，而且也给每一个见到过他的人带来了愉快。

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对号入座

你见，或者不见我
我就在那里
不悲不喜

你念，或者不念我
情就在那里
不来不去

你爱，或者不爱我
爱就在那里
不增不减

你跟，或者不跟我
我的手就在你手里
不舍不弃

来我的怀里 或者让我住进你的心里
默然 相爱
寂静 欢喜

by 达赖喇嘛仓央嘉措

came across this poem twice in a week,

such a coincidence...

and i

fall deeply in love with it.

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哭的時候沒人哄，我學會了堅強；

怕的時候沒人陪，我學會了勇敢；

煩的時候沒人問，我學會了承受；

累的時候沒人可以依靠，我學會了自立……

就這樣我找到了自己，

原來我很優秀，更可貴的是，

世界上，

我只有一個，只有一個我！

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sharing: 好好生活，品味人生，享受幸福

關於人生：
人生如夢，歲月無情。驀然回首，才發現人活著是一種心情。窮也好，富也好，得也好，失也好。一切都是過眼雲煙。想想，不管昨天、今天、明天，能豁然開朗就是美好的一天。不管親情、友情、愛情，能永遠珍惜就是好心情。記得有一個經典短信這樣寫著：曾經擁有的不要忘記；已經得到的更加珍惜；屬於自己的不要放棄；已經失去的留作回憶；想要得到的一定要努力；累了把心靠岸；選擇了就不要後悔；苦了才懂得滿足；痛了才享受生活；傷了才明白堅強；總有起風的清晨；總有絢爛的黃昏；總有流星的夜晚。人生就像一張有去無回的單程車票，沒有彩排，每一場都是現場直播。把握好每次演出便是對人生最好的珍惜。把握現在，暢享人生！

關於友情：
有一天，友情和愛情碰見。愛情問友情：世上有我了，為什麼還要有你的存在？友情笑著說：愛情會讓人們流淚，而友情的存在就是幫人們擦乾眼淚！朋友就是：偶爾會為你擔心、向你關心、替你懆心、想你開心、逗你開心、請你放心。朋友之間，懂得關懷才是難得……傷心時不妨和我說；痛苦時別忘了跟我講；有病時別忘了通知我；困難時記得要請教我；失望時要想起還有我；開心時更不要忘記我。朋友的定義，就在於此……我們是朋友，這就夠了……

關於微笑：
被人誤解的時候能微微的一笑，這是一種素養；受委屈的時候能坦然的一笑，這是一種大度；吃虧的時候能開心的一笑，這是一種豁達；處窘境的時候能自嘲的一笑，這是一種智慧；無奈的時候能達觀的一笑，這是一種境界；危難的時候能泰然一笑，這是一種大氣；被輕蔑的時候能平靜的一笑，這是一種自信；失戀的時候能輕輕的一笑，這是一種灑脫。不管是有什麼事情，為了什麼原因……我們每天都要開心一笑…………

關於生活：
日出東海落西山，愁也一天，喜也一天；遇事不鑽牛角尖，人也舒坦，心也舒坦；每天領取謀生錢，多也喜歡，少也喜歡；少葷多素日三餐，粗也香甜，細也香甜；新舊衣服不挑撿，好也禦寒，賴也禦寒；常與知己聊聊天，古也談談，今也談談；全家老少互慰勉，貧也相安，富也相安。
關於幸福：
相傳幸福是個美麗的玻璃球，跌碎散落在世間的每個角落。有的人撿到多些，有的人撿到少些。卻沒有人能擁有全部。愛你所愛選你所選，珍惜現在所擁有的一切。人活著就是一種心情，把握今天，設置明天，儲存永遠。只要用心感受，幸福就會永遠存在。
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nice sharing: 一生只有兩天

一生只有兩天：「第一天」和「最後一天」。

就先從賈伯斯追女朋友講起囉！賈伯斯是誰？他是蘋果公司的創辦人，是世界第一部個人電腦的發明人之一，也就是出產iPhone公司的老闆。話說1985年，賈伯斯被自己創立的蘋果公司掃地出門！可以想像當時的打擊有多大，但是賈伯斯只鬱卒了一下子，很快他就振作起來了。有一天他在一所大學演講，「她」坐在聽眾席聆聽，賈伯斯被剎到了。

活動一結束，賈伯斯就去跟「她」聊天，拿到了電話號碼。原本想開口約「她」當天晚上一起吃晚餐，可是又正好有個會議要開，只好把快要說出口的話，吞了回去。

當賈伯斯準備去開車離開時，他問了自己一個「老問題」，這是他每天早上面對鏡子問自己的一個問題-「如果今天是我這輩子的最後一天，我今天要做些什麼？」......答案出來了，賈伯斯馬上跑回去演講廳找「她」，約去共進晚餐。這位「她」-LaurenePowell寶兒-現在就是賈伯斯的老婆。

引述賈伯斯的一段話：「提醒自己快死了，是我在人生中面臨重大決定時，所用過最重要的方法。因為幾乎每件事－所有外界期望、所有的名聲、所有對困窘或失敗的恐懼－在面對死亡時，都消失了，只有最真實重要的東西才會留下。」

賈伯斯又補充說：「提醒自己快死了，是我所知避免掉入畏懼失去的陷阱裡最好的方法。人生不帶來、死不帶去，沒理由不能順心而為。」我們也靜下心來，問自己「最後一天」這個問題- 「如果今天是我這輩子的最後一天，我今天要做些什麼？」

「第一天」又是什麼呢？-當「第一天」入大學讀書，我們對學校、課本、同學充滿好奇心-當「第一天」進公司上班，我們謙虛，願意學習，有衝勁-當「第一天」約會，我們小鹿亂撞，珍惜相處的每一刻-當「第一天」晉升職等，新官上任三把火，有滿腹雄心壯志，要有所作為回想我們做任何事的「第一天」，都是我們最有活力的一天。時光不能倒流，但態度可以回轉。

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sharing: 成熟~

1、 遇到不想回答的問題 ：直視對方的眼睛 ，微笑、 沈默 。

2 、走路抬頭挺胸，心情不好時，不想跟人招呼，點頭微笑，逕直走過 。

3 、請記得 ：好朋友的定義是，你混的好，他打心眼裡為你開心，你混的不好，他由衷的為你著急 。

4 、做自己的決定 ，然後準備好承擔後果 。從一開始就提醒自己 ，世上沒有後悔藥吃， 而我永遠有個 B計劃。

5、 自己分內的事情 ，努力做到一百分 。

6 、接受自己不過是個"小小的我" ，但眼裡要能夠悅納"大大的世界" 。

7、 如果你真的喜歡一個人，就給他自由。如果他能回到你身邊，他就是你的，如果他沒有回來，那他也永遠不屬於你。

8 、不要試圖給自己找任何藉口，錯誤面前沒人愛聽那些藉口。

9 、不要隨意發脾氣，誰都不欠你的 。

10 、不說謊話 ，因為總有被拆穿的一天。

11 、別低估任何人。

12 、你沒那麼多觀眾 ，別那麼累 。

13、 過去的事情可以不忘記 ，但一定要放下。

14 、別人說的記在腦袋裡，而自己的， 則放在心裡。

15 、社會是有等級的， 很多事不公平， 別抱怨 ，因為沒有用 。

16 、你永遠沒有你自己想像中那麼重要 。

17 、錢能解決的問題統統不叫問題。

18 、無論何時說"我愛你"，請真心實意， 無論何時說"對不起"， 請看著對方的眼睛。

19、 永遠不要以貌取人，慢慢地說，但要迅速地想。

20 找點時間，單獨呆會兒 .

21 不是自己的東西不要 ，就是再喜歡也不行 ，要懂得放棄 。

22 不要覺得是生活虧欠了你 ，其實是我做的努力不夠 。

23 努力向前，再努力向前，再努力一下下，願望就會實現 ！

24 永遠沒有堅持到底的失敗，也不會有半途而廢的成功。

25 三人行必有我師，沒有人會比你弱，好學、上進的心態。多問問自己："我努力了沒有？"。

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"The proper function of man is to live - not to exist." -- Jack London

Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it.

That's fine, and comfortable, until you have gone through another year without having done anything, without having really lived life.

That's fine, until you have reached old age and look back on life with regrets.

That's fine, until you see your kids go off to college and realize that you missed their childhoods.

It's not fine. If you want to truly live life, to really experience it, to enjoy it to the fullest, instead of barely scraping by and only living a life of existence, then you need to find ways to break free from the mold and drink from life.

What follows is just a list of ideas, obvious ones mostly that you could have thought of yourself, but that I hope are useful reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. If you find this useful, print it out, and start using it. Today.

1. Love. Perhaps the most important. Fall in love, if you aren't already. If you have, fall in love with your partner all over again. Abandon caution and let your heart be broken. Or love family members, friends, anyone -- it doesn't have to be romantic love. Love all of humanity, one person at a time.


2. Get outside. Don't let yourself be shut indoors. Go out when it's raining. Walk on the beach. Hike through the woods. Swim in a freezing lake. Bask in the sun. Play sports, or walk barefoot through grass. Pay close attention to nature.


3. Savor food. Don't just eat your food, but really enjoy it. Feel the texture, the bursts of flavors. Savor every bite. If you limit your intake of sweets, it will make the small treats you give yourself (berries or dark chocolate are my favorites) even more enjoyable. And when you do have them, really, really savor them. Slowly.


4. Create a morning ritual. Wake early and greet the day. Watch the sun rise. Out loud, tell yourself that you will not waste this day, which is a gift. You will be compassionate to your fellow human beings, and live every moment to its fullest. Stretch or meditate or exercise as part of your ritual. Enjoy some coffee.


5. Take chances. We often live our lives too cautiously, worried about what might go wrong. Be bold, risk it all. Quit your job and go to business for yourself (plan it out first!), or go up to that girl you've liked for a long time and ask her out. What do you have to lose?


6. Follow excitement. Try to find the things in life that excite you, and then go after them. Make life one exciting adventure after another (with perhaps some quiet times in between).


7. Find your passion. Similar to the above tip, this one asks you to find your calling. Make your living by doing the thing you love to do. First, think about what you really love to do. There may be many things. Find out how you can make a living doing it. It may be difficult, but you only live once.


8. Get out of your cubicle. Do you sit all day in front of computer, shuffling papers and taking phone calls and chatting on the Internet? Don't waste your days like this. Break free from the cubicle environment, and do your work on a laptop, in a coffee shop, or on a boat, or in a log cabin. This may require a change of jobs, or becoming a freelancer. It's worth it.


9. Turn off the TV. How many hours will we waste away in front of the boob tube? How many hours do we have to live? Do the math, then unplug the TV. Only plug it back in when you have a DVD of a movie you love. Otherwise, keep it off and find other stuff to do. Don't know what to do? Read further.


10. Pull away from Internet. You're reading something on the Internet right now. And, with the exception of this article, it is just more wasting away of your precious time. You cannot get these minutes back. Unplug the Internet, then get out of your office or house. Right now! And go and do something.


11. Travel. Sure, you want to travel some day. When you have vacation time, or when you're older. Well, what are you waiting for? Find a way to take a trip, if not this month, then sometime soon. You may need to sell your car or stop your cable bill and stop eating out to do it, but make it happen. You are too young to not see the world. If need be, find a way to make a living by freelancing, then work while you travel. Only work an hour or two a day. Don't check email but once a week. Then use the rest of the time to see the world.


12. Rediscover what's important. Take an hour and make a list of everything that's important to you. Add to it everything that you want to do in life. Now cut that list down to 4-5 things. Just the most important things in your life. This is your core list. This is what matters. Focus your life on these things. Make time for them.


13. Eliminate everything else. What's going on in your life that's not on that short list? All that stuff is wasting your time, pulling your attention from what's important. As much as possible, simplify your life by eliminating the stuff that's not on your short list, or minimizing it.


14. Exercise. Get off the couch and go for a walk. Eventually try running. Or do some push ups and crunches. Or swim or bike or row. Or go for a hike. Whatever you do, get active, and you'll love it. And life will be more alive.


15. Be positive. Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can't do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Solutions. You can do this!


16. Open your heart. Is your heart a closed bundle of scar tissue? Learn to open it, have it ready to receive love, to give love unconditionally. If you have a problem with this, talk to someone about it. And practice makes perfect.


17. Kiss in the rain. Seize the moment and be romantic. Raining outside? Grab your lover and give her a passionate kiss. Driving home? Stop the car and pick some wildflowers. Send her a love note. Dress sexy for him.


18. Face your fears. What are you most afraid of? What is holding you back? Whatever it is, recognize it, and face it. Do what you are most afraid of. Afraid of heights? Go to the tallest building, and look down over the edge. Only by facing our fears can we be free of them.


19. When you suffer, suffer. Life isn't all about fun and games. Suffering is an inevitable part of life. We lose our jobs. We lose our lovers. We lose our pets. We get physically injured or sick. A loved one becomes sick. A parent dies. Learn to feel the pain intensely, and really grieve. This is a part of life -- really feel the pain. And when you're done, move on, and find joy.


20. Slow down. Life moves along at such a rapid pace these days. It's not healthy, and it's not conducive to living. Practice doing everything slowly -- everything, from eating to walking to driving to working to reading. Enjoy what you do. Learn to move at a snail's pace.


21. Touch humanity. Get out of your house and manicured neighborhoods, and find those who live in worse conditions. Meet them, talk to them, understand them. Live among them. Be one of them. Give up your materialistic lifestyle.


22. Volunteer. Help at homeless soup kitchens. Learn compassion, and learn to help ease the suffering of others. Help the sick, those with disabilities, those who are dying.


23. Play with children. Children, more than anyone else, know how to live. They experience everything in the moment, fully. When they get hurt, they really cry. When they play, they really have fun. Learn from them, instead of thinking you know so much more than them. Play with them, and learn to be joyful like them.


24. Talk to old people. There is no one wiser, more experienced, more learned, than those who have lived through life. They can tell you amazing stories. Give you advice on making a marriage last or staying out of debt. Tell you about their regrets, so you can learn from them and avoid the same mistakes. They are the wisdom of our society -- take advantage of their existence while they're still around.


25. Learn new skills. Constantly improve yourself instead of standing still -- not because you're so imperfect now, but because it is gratifying and satisfying. You should accept yourself as you are, and learn to love who you are, but still try to improve -- if only because the process of improvement is life itself.


26. Find spirituality. For some, this means finding God or Jesus or Allah or Buddha. For others, this means becoming in tune with the spirits of our ancestors, or with nature. For still others, this just means an inner energy. Whatever spirituality means for you, rediscover it, and its power.


27. Take mini-retirements. Don't leave the joy of retirement until you are too old to enjoy it. Do it now, while you're young. It makes working that much more worth it. Find ways to take a year off every few years. Save up, sell your home, your possessions, and travel. Live simply, but live, without having to work. Enjoy life, then go back to work and save up enough money to do it again in a couple of years.


28. Do nothing. Despite the tip above that we should find excitement, there is value in doing nothing as well. Not doing nothing as in reading, or taking a nap, or watching TV, or meditating. Doing nothing as in sitting there, doing nothing. Just learning to be still, in silence, to hear our inner voice, to be in tune with life. Do this daily if possible.


29. Stop playing video games. They might be fun, but they can take up way too much time. If you spend a lot of time playing online games, or computer solitaire, or Wii or Gameboy or whatever, consider going a week without it. Then find something else to do, outside.


30. Watch sunsets, daily. One of the most beautiful times of day. Make it a daily ritual to find a good spot to watch the sunset, perhaps having a light dinner while you do so.


31. Stop reading magazines. They're basically crap. And they waste your time and money. Cancel your subscriptions and walk past them at the news stands. .


32. Break out from ruts. Do you do things the same way every day? Change it up. Try something new. Take a different route to work. Start your day out differently. Approach work from a new angle. Look at things from new perspectives.


33. Stop watching the news. It's depressing and useless. If you're a news junky, this may be difficult. I haven't watch TV news or read a newspaper regularly in about two years. It hasn't hurt me a bit. Anything important, my mom tells me about.


34. Laugh till you cry. Laughing is one of the best ways to live. Tell jokes and laugh your head off. Watch an awesome comedy. Learn to laugh at anything. Roll on the ground laughing. You'll love it.


35. Lose control. Not only control over yourself, but control over others. It's a bad habit to try to control others -- it will only lead to stress and unhappiness for yourself and those you try to control. Let others live, and live for yourself. And lose control of yourself now and then too.


36. Cry. Men, especially, tend to hold in our tears, but crying is an amazing release. Cry at sad movies. Cry at a funeral. Cry when you are hurt, or when somebody you love is hurt. It releases these emotions and allows us to cleanse ourselves.


37. Make an awesome dessert. I like to make warm, soft chocolate cake. But even berries dipped in chocolate, or crepes with ice cream and fruit, or fresh apple pie, or homemade chocolate chip cookies or brownies, are great. This isn't an every day thing, but an occasional treat thing. But it's wonderful.


38. Try something new, every week. Ask yourself: "What new thing shall I try this week?" Then be sure to do it. You don't have to learn a new language in one week, but seek new experiences. Give it a try. You might decide you want to keep it in your life.


39. Be in the moment. Instead of thinking about things you need to do, or things that have happened to you, or worrying or planning or regretting, think about what you are doing, right now. What is around you? What smells and sounds and sights and feelings are you experiencing? Learn to do this as much as possible through meditation, but also through bringing your focus back to the present as much as you can in everything you do.

Written on 6/19/2007 by Leo Babauta, a writer, a runner and a vegetarian, and the owner of Zen Habits. This article was republished on 6/28/09.

the link:

http://www.dumblittleman.com/2007/06/39-ways-to-live-and-not-merely-exist.html